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From: Helena
Date: 7/14/04
Time: 12:27:31 PM
Remote Name: 172.147.166.140
Hey, Kelly
I am so, so sorry you're feeling so badly. I suggest that you ask your boyfriend to go to the library and check out a book called "The Postpartum Husband" by Karen Kleiman. It's written specifically for men whose spouses/partners are suffering from PPD. It's no wonder he doesn't understand it -- few people do because of the lack of education surrounding postpartum mood disorders. Another excellent resource is a website designed specifically for dads -- www.postpartumdads.org.
You've done exactly the right thing by making the appointment with a counselor/psychiatrist. However, most medical professions are not trained in treating PPD so ask questions about his/her experience in treating PPD. Give yourself permission to change doctors if you don't feel comfortable with a specific doctor. There are doctors out there who know how to treat PPD. If you will tell me where you live, I will try to connect you with a support group and professionals who work with PPD.
Also, a book for you to check at the library is "Beyond the Blues" by Bennett and Indman. It contains short chapters that are easy to read and has a wealth of good, practical information regarding effective treatment of postpartum depression.
If you reach the point, again, of feeling you cannot go on with your life, PLEASE go to the nearest emergency room for help. Your family will be devastated at losing you, and I completely understand your not wanting to die but feeling you can't keep living. I experienced that with my daughter -- and the result WAS devastating to all her family...for the rest of our lives.
I know you feel along, but you are NOT. Feel free to call me/email me anytime. I will give you names and email addresses of women who have been where you are and have survived and are now living normal, happy lives with their families. They will be delighted to give you support and love.
Thank you so much for reaching out for help (through contacting us) instead of choosing the alternative which would be devastating to you and your family!
God loves you, my sister, and so do I. Helena